Anyone who's dating or in a relationship should visit this website. I'm a male ENFP married to a female ENFJ for 31 years and counting. type in shaping our unconscious choices and our communications and interactions. ENFPs take their relationships very seriously, but also approach them with a childlike enthusiasm and energy. They seek and demand authenticity and depth in. ENFJs put a lot of effort and enthusiasm into their relationships. To some extent, the ENFJ defines themself by the closeness and authenticity of their personal.
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Extroversion-Extroversion Joys Because both parties enjoy people, they are likely to go for many socializing activities and parties together. They are perfectionists who believe that any form of criticism is a stab at their character, which is very difficult for them to take. The excel at bringing out the best in others, and warmly supporting them.
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They may be in the habit of constantly asking their partner how they're doing, what they're feeling, etc. This behavior may be a bit smothering, but it also supports a strong awareness of the health or illness of the relationship. Sexually, the ENFJ looks forward to intimacy as an opportunity to express love and caring.
The ENFJ is generally very interested in the happiness and satisfaction of their partner. Because they achieve much of their personal satisfaction from making others happy, they're likely to be skilled lovers. Like other Judgers, the ENFJ is likely to follow a schedule for intimacy, and may be prone to becoming routinized.
For the ENFJ, the most important aspect of a sexual encounter is the affirmation of love and affection. Although the ENFJ will probably not ask for it, they need to be given sweet words and loving affirmation.
Since they are so externally focused on serving people, they do not always pay attention to their own needs. Since much of their personal satisfaction comes from bringing happiness to others, they're able to ignore their own needs and still be happy much more easily than other types. However, if they focus entirely on giving without doing some taking, they may find themselves in an unhealthy, unbalanced relationship. They need to work on being aware of their needs, and being OK with verbalizing those needs to their partners.
A problem area for ENFJs in relationships is their very serious dislike of conflict. ENFJs will prefer to brush issues under the rug rather than confront them head-on, if there is likely to be a conflict. They are also likely to "give in" easily in conflict situations, just to end the conflict.
They might agree to something which goes against their values just to end the uncomfortable situation. In such cases, the problem is extended and will return at a later time. The ENFJ needs to realize that the world will not end if there is a disagreement, and that dealing with things immediately initiates closure.
Ignoring issues will not make them go away. In general, the ENFJ is intensely and enthusiastically involved in their personal relationships. They bring fun and warmth into the equation, and are willing to work hard to make things work. How did we arrive at this? Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
They consider the task of passing on values and goals to their children as paramount, and will strive to consistently be a good role model to their children. The ENFJ considers it their responsibility to make sure that their children turn out well.
This characteristic, combined with the ENFJ's definite values and ideas about the way things should be, usually results in the ENFJ parent being rather strict, and having high expectations for the behavior of their children.
On the other hand, the ENFJ is also warm and affectionate with their children, and very supportive and affirming. The ENFJ can also be counted on to take care of day-to-day necessities for their children. It is not usually easy to be the child of an ENFJ. The ENFJ's life focus is centered in the sphere of relationships.
They take their relationship roles very seriously. They are very "hands-on" in relationships, always monitoring it's progress. This behavior may be smothering to some individuals. ENFJs have very definite value systems, and well-defined ideas about what is right and what is wrong. Since they believe that part of their parental role involves passing their values and ideas to their children, and since they are so concerned and involved with their children, the ENFJ has a tendency to be a strict, controling parent, who is very aware of their children's actions.
The ENFJ needs to remember to allow their children the room for growth which is necessary if they are to evolve into healthy, well-adjusted adults. With a bit of effort, it will be possible for the ENFJ to balance their need to pass their values and ideals down to their children with their children's need to develop as individuals.
The ENFP gets energized by people and possibilities. The ENFJ gets energized being around people and prefers to talk out their thoughts instead of internalizing them. They are in tune with the feelings and emotions of their environment and seek to understand it. Intuition and Intuition Two intuitives will get along well. They both see the world in abstract and possibilities, which can lead to engaging conversation. However, they may have trouble following through with day to day chores and responsibilities.
The ENFJ wants to understand the underlying meanings and connections between things. The ENFJ can form a gut feeling or intuition about the way things are going to play out. Feeling and Feeling Two feeling types can make for a very warm and inviting relationship. Both types are in tune with the feelings of others and can cater to their needs. However, they may have problems with becoming overwhelmed with finances or being more objective in certain situations.